Sting spoke the truth: If you love someone, set them free (you will be rewarded)

I often hear about women staying in relationships because they feel such a 'strong connection to someone' that they have 'never felt before'.  Except that other person is not responding in an equal way.  And they suffer.  But they keep going back for more, since they do not want to loose this special feeling that they have not had with anyone before.  This is scarcity mentality.  Compromising, because we believe 'it doesn't get any better than this and it's better than nothing'.

Word of advice - watch Sting:

If you love someone set them free

Common descriptions that come my way:

 I have really been confused about this man I have been with off and on this year. There are so many ways we are exactly opposite, and in some ways so close, he feels like my best friend for life. I see so much potential in our ability to reach nirvana, but, as of now, he has addiction issues, and he is not making me or our love come first. I keep breaking up with him, because of these issues, and he keeps calling me, texting me, not wanting me to go, but, when I go back to him, he acts the same. I have told him what I want, but, I'm not sure he is listening. I am broken up with him now, though we keep talking. My heart just breaks in moments I want to go , back to him so badly, I feel like my heart is dying, but, I don't know things will ever be different. 

All I can say is, if they are not putting your first, and that is one of your top priorities in a relationship, please don't waste your time, you deserve better. 

When we are addicted to the love, the idea, the vision, we are always waiting for their potential... The truth is, people do not change that quickly.  How easy and fast do we change our ways?  If you have been putting them first and they are not returning it equally, it is time to set them free and love and appreciate them from afar.  

If you are wondering if they are your twin flame but they just don't know it yet, set them free.  They will come to you and make you feel seen, heard and met.   It will not confuse you, there will have not been a word for it before.  THIS is a sign that YOU are changing.  

What to do in the interim, while you wait?
Know that it is none of your business who your twin flame is.  Feel and nurse your wounds. What are you looking for someone else to fill?  Fill up your time with self care, take yourself on special outings, invest time in doing things you love and are passionate about.  Get creative!  This distractive energy is magnetic to your twin flame! 

Accept all parts of yourself.  That way they will too.

I still set Aaron free.  And in all the space of the entire universe, he chooses me.  Allow the universe to surprise you.

If you are still questioning the difference between a soul mate or a twin flame, I enjoyed this:

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