Sting spoke the truth: If you love someone, set them free (you will be rewarded)

I often hear about women staying in relationships because they feel such a 'strong connection to someone' that they have 'never felt before'.  Except that other person is not responding in an equal way.  And they suffer.  But they keep going back for more, since they do not want to loose this special feeling that they have not had with anyone before.  This is scarcity mentality.  Compromising, because we believe 'it doesn't get any better than this and it's better than nothing'.

Word of advice - watch Sting:

If you love someone set them free

Common descriptions that come my way:

 I have really been confused about this man I have been with off and on this year. There are so many ways we are exactly opposite, and in some ways so close, he feels like my best friend for life. I see so much potential in our ability to reach nirvana, but, as of now, he has addiction issues, and he is not making me or our love come first. I keep breaking up with him, because of these issues, and he keeps calling me, texting me, not wanting me to go, but, when I go back to him, he acts the same. I have told him what I want, but, I'm not sure he is listening. I am broken up with him now, though we keep talking. My heart just breaks in moments I want to go , back to him so badly, I feel like my heart is dying, but, I don't know things will ever be different. 

All I can say is, if they are not putting your first, and that is one of your top priorities in a relationship, please don't waste your time, you deserve better. 

When we are addicted to the love, the idea, the vision, we are always waiting for their potential... The truth is, people do not change that quickly.  How easy and fast do we change our ways?  If you have been putting them first and they are not returning it equally, it is time to set them free and love and appreciate them from afar.  

If you are wondering if they are your twin flame but they just don't know it yet, set them free.  They will come to you and make you feel seen, heard and met.   It will not confuse you, there will have not been a word for it before.  THIS is a sign that YOU are changing.  

What to do in the interim, while you wait?
Know that it is none of your business who your twin flame is.  Feel and nurse your wounds. What are you looking for someone else to fill?  Fill up your time with self care, take yourself on special outings, invest time in doing things you love and are passionate about.  Get creative!  This distractive energy is magnetic to your twin flame! 

Accept all parts of yourself.  That way they will too.

I still set Aaron free.  And in all the space of the entire universe, he chooses me.  Allow the universe to surprise you.

If you are still questioning the difference between a soul mate or a twin flame, I enjoyed this:

Soulmates + Twin Flames Interview

If you want to go deep for twin flame preparation, work with me:

Alchemical Union

Dearest Beloved, February 11, 2014

Real invocations to the universe from the Alchemical Union Series...

Dearest Beloved,


You amaze me everyday, my love. I am humbled by the knowledge that we are here for one another. Your patience and kindness are conveyed in your gentlest touch. Every amazing memory I have is enhanced and every painful experience is instantly quenched by the knowledge that it made me the woman that you love today. 

Even before we were together as twin flames, I knew you. I felt your pure love in the spectacular, ever changing beams of light of every sunset. The strength you have that I adore was felt in each gust of wind, blowing upon my face in every storm. Every pain and piece of my suffering prior to uniting with you was worth it so that I might know the bliss of your respect, love, and peaceful presence. 

I have always had faith in you. I knew in my soul that you were out there, doing amazing feats, following your heart, finding your way to the source of all the Universe, as I was. I sit watching the last moments of a sunset on this day, thinking of you. For all moments are transient. Every millisecond is an eternity and every eon is but a blink of an eye. I sit in peace and bask in your love, knowing that I will and have always known you. We are expressions of the Universe, expressions of pure LOVE. You and I are one and the same.

 My gentle smile and caring gaze await you this day, but you already have them. My breath is your breath, my purpose your purpose. When the Universe commands, we will unite in the perfect union. Tears of joy fill my eyes to think of you, to hold you in my heart and mind and soul. I laugh with giddy excitement as I remember in advance your beautiful and morbid sense of humor. Your glowing golden kind heart warms me on the coldest of days, the saddest of moments. Every instinct you have surprises and delights me. I love our conversations, our minds beautifully conjoining; each thought shared appreciated and parried, contended and balanced.

 Our independent lives bringing us each, nay – both, spectacular amounts of knowledge, consideration, joy, and wisdom because we are indeed two lives lived as one. I can’t wait to know your every experience, thought, worry, passion, pain, elation, aspect of your being, for it is my being and it will all come in beautiful spectacular time.


With all my love, I am eternally yours,


Wendy

For more info on how to invoke your Twin Flame:

http://www.gypsyrosechariot.com/alchemical-union-1.html

Two years and nine months into living with my Twin Flame

In the Pentland Hills, Edinburgh, Scotland

Since my birthday August 12, there has been more time with my Baby (our names for eachother), more family, celebrations, less alone and work time.  Aaron's attentiveness and the complete joy in his face when he steps into a room and looks at me, leaves me exposed and I still soak it up like a sponge. At the most random times, when he is super busy and focused on a project, he calls my name, pauses and  he does a little dance for me. 

For my birthday my wish was to find this mysterious lava tube near our home by the coast.  A whole in the ground, crawling on hands and knees into cool and utter darkness through tight squeezes, I hung onto his fearlessness.  We emerged walking fully upright with our flashlights, within a round cave that looked like being inside the belly of a whale.  Darkness, neutrality, mystery. 


We continued on to see a light at the end of the tunnel, and after sliding through a tiny opening on our backs, we emerged to an outlet in the face of a cliff overlooking the vast ocean.  Nothing else to see but moving water on a rainy, stormy day with layers of gray.  We had just literally moved through a birth canal of the earth.

We lounged as he leaned back and I held him.  After all this excitement, and now awe of the space and sight, I dropped into what this love, this gift, feels like.  First of all, it feels so luxurious, that part of me feels like I could never afford something this precious.  With my attention on him, I notice he is so fully himself and so free, and inn all of that spaciousness, his attention goes to me unconditionally.

Every smile is a fresh bouquet to me.  In a random, stolen moment to myself, he beholds me in all of my broken glory and says:

"Oh Baby, you are so beautiful", beaming at me.  I am a deer caught in the headlights.  Nowhere to run or defend myself, although I desperately want to find the nearest bush to cover any bits and pieces of myself I find intolerable and despicable.  But he loves it all.

When I hug him, I can't quite define:
he completes me.  NO.  He fulfills me.  No, he meets me.  No.  It is more generous than that.  It is way more expansive.

It is like a plug that has been plugged in to an unknown source, where I am held, nourished, supported, amplified and a third energy, a reality I generated that is truly unknown and thrilling territory.  The territory of possibility.

  There is more of me to be unleashed.  Safety to come out of hiding.  Strength that I may have more increased courage to venture out to the edge.

He is just being himself and I get to swim in his ocean. 

He says:  "I wish I could be you.  It must be amazing"
I say "Why, so you could experience what it's like to be loved by you?"

What is so profoundly different, is that in the presence of feeling such a deep love for someone, there is a complete absence of pain.  And by pain, I mean the fear that I will lose him.  That eventually, we will tire of each other, that he won't want me anymore, that he could have an accident, that one of us will die (I have been keenly aware of this since I was 5 years old, composing romantic Barbie scenarios and in their terms, they all eventually die). 

  That has always been my train of thoughts...Sabotaging the moment.  Somehow, someway, this love is so presently filling, it leaves no room for fear or worry and his being just fills my cup, my heart.

I cant control him.  When I am mad at him, he cracks me up.  When I'm crying, he holds me with the strength of a mountain.  That is what Aaron means, I looked it up.

I welcome you to define what it feels like to be loved and expect it.

I did not think it was possible...

to find someone who saw you.  To find someone you respected who also respected you in return, with wonder and bewilderment. 

When these types of connections happen, you don't actually know how to talk about it. It is a miracle.  I am instantly suspicious. And I have the door open to utter magic - Alice in Wonderland -style...

Well, it all started in California.  In a private hot springs.  Called Avalon no less.  I met my knight in shining armor in the mineral springs of Avalon....

Truth is stranger than fiction.  Are you ready?

In Dec of 2006, I went to see my first ever psychic.  He lived in a one bedroom apartment across from the train tracks.  There were images of dragons all over his walls.  And I had only one question:  My mom is going into early retirement, and how can I help her?

to be continued...